“Most of your fears are simply scripts acquired by the subconscious mind. This means you have the power to rewrite them.”
As we travel through these unprecedented times, many people are breaking through their inner status quo and work through the contents of the subconscious mind where collective fear programming has been stored. This can manifest as tremendous emotional pressure that greatly increases the perceptions of fear and anxiety that are being experienced in our lives. When we are clouded by the lens of fear we are easily overwhelmed and can feel mentally paralyzed as a result of the bombardment of fear, running its frequency throughout our nervous system.
Many people do not have clarity on the actual causal source of where their fear and pain impulses are coming from. Much of what is being experienced now is being greatly amplified by the media and activating wounds from our past.
To reclaim our freedom, we must make the effort to overcome our fears that cause internal fragmentation. Disunity breeds self-deception, false perceptions and many negative ego traps. When fear rules us, darkness rules us.
However, if we habitually feel unsafe with others, it may be we need to demystify the reasons we feel afraid. We can feel much more stable and grounded if we build safety within ourselves. In order to heal our mental and emotional body to overcome deep fears, we must know how to establish safety within ourselves and recognize what makes us feel unsafe. Taking good care of our body, having a consistent meditation or spiritual practice to become more inner directed, avoiding exposure to self-harming behaviors, and learning how to manage fear or trauma reactions is essential to being safe within yourself.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO DISMANTLE YOUR FEARS?
Fear creates a sense of uncertainty, being out of control, which puts your body into a physiological state of fight or flight. It also disconnects you from your higher guidance and partially disables the prefrontal cortex. When you commit to honest self-work you will create a flexibility and self sustainability in your energy from which you create every moment of your life. This can have a really huge impact on how you live the rest of your life. If you know me you probably heard me saying… “it doesn’t matter what you do, all that counts is how you are being because that is where the doing is coming from”. So, by taking care of your fears you will be enhancing your being and with that giving yourself more choice and more opportunity as the old beliefs will cease to limit you.
I’ve been working with energetics for a very long time and I can tell you everything in your life manifests from the energy level you are at. And currently we’re dealing with quite a bit of change on the planetary level, on the nations level and on the community and family levels. So, creating that safe space within yourself will give you a tremendous internal flexibility while addressing what is happening in your environment. If you are currently in the process of a major life shift, remember: the energy you close one chapter with will open the next one”. I’ve seen it over and over in my life as well as in the lives of people I work with. If you are creating a change out of fear you will most likely generate more reasons for the fear to be justified. Another important thing is: when you are in the state of fear you are creating out of the energy of disempowerment.
Now, the good news is freedom from fears and the sense of safety is an internal job. The reflex is to try tweak the external world so that we feel safe internally. And that is the source of many frictions in this world. And we all had participated in many situations where one person channels all their energy to try to make their partner behave differently. And it goes on for years with the only effect being anger between the two partners. It’s not to say everything goes, but to understand that healing comes from owning our emotions and processing them internally. And after a given emotion is process we might see no problem with our partner or we might conclude it’s time to move on. Either way you will be creating from the sense of internal balance and inner sustainability. Neither of them is present when you are in a fear reaction. You are in control of your mind and of your beliefs. You have the ultimate power over your experience.
WHY ARE WE AFRAID?
Fear is one of the most basic human emotions. It is programmed into the nervous system. This means your perception of a threat activates immediate somatic reactions. You don’t directly control the body’s response, but you control the perception. And I will talk about it later on.
From the time we’re infants, we are equipped with the survival instincts necessary to respond with fear when we sense danger or feel unsafe. Fear helps protect us.
Let’s rewind to your beginning in this lifetime. You were born with 2 fears: the fear of being dropped and the fear of loud noises. When you were a toddler you probably did things like climbing up an open window or running on the street. Young kids don’t know fear and the reason I’m telling you that is that most fears are acquired. The fear of rejection or the fear of judgement are typical hand me downs. When you were a little kid you probably loved the attention, you didn’t fashion yourself to look a certain way others would approve, or be certain way to get favourable judgement. Originally there was no sense of unsafety of other’s judgement. It all came later.
So, we acquire different fears as we grow up. Where do we acquire them from? From our environment. 50% of your perceptions about the world, including what’s safe comes from the first 5 years of your life. Imagine that. We are mostly driven by perceptions instilled in us when we were that young. When you were ignored or mistreated as a 4 year old, it translates for you as “I am not safe. I might die” and a young child has a very good adaptation mechanism and they will form their psyche and their behaviour so it gives them the best chance to survive. So, that child might be very quiet and subdued as to not enrage the parent. At the same time they will feel angry at being supressed. But the anger has to buried deep inside so the child can remain safe. Now, that child eventually grows up and because they have to play the quiet one for so long it becomes a habit and it feels like a part of their personality. That is being reinforced by other’s perceptions about them and their own self-talk.
What happens is, once in a while something reminds you of the inner suppression and activates the rage. This is called being triggered or experiencing a flashback. It is a great opportunity to unwind the fear of self expression. The doorway you must enter is through allowing everything to be felt and processed.
So this is how our ego, our personality gets created – through conditioning. And, as you can tell, most of that is not even you. You will always have a choice to remain in the old world as defined by the fears, or decide to dismantle them for good. And that opens the door to a completely different reality and new opportunities.
So, getting back to our initial question in this section: why are we afraid? We are mostly afraid because of the hand-me-down perceptions we acquired when we were growing up and the reinforced new perceptions we receive from our current environment, such as mass media or other people.
THE ANATOMY OF FEAR
Your brain responds to 2 things, the pictures you make in your mind and words. It’s important to state that the pictures you see in your mind are interpretations of what is and these are heavily biased by your earlier experiences. When you are using words like horrible, disaster you have a different physiological reaction than if you used words interesting or exciting.
Take look at the below picture. It wonderfully depicts all the complex body processes triggered by the perception of danger. Many people walk around these days with an activated limbic brain. It is the part of the nervous system that is responsible for keeping your body safe. Many of us function on the fight-or-flight spectrum, which, in the long run is harmful to our bodies. Getting out of that cycle will not only benefit your health but also create a sense of peace and clarity that you will be able to offer to others.
It’s not an easy task as fear is deeply intertwined with the societal belief systems and constantly induced by the 24/7 news cycle presenting a warped version of reality.
When activated, your fear quickly distorts the sense of reality and diminishes your intelligence (by suppressing the activity of the prefrontal cortex). It may get overwhelming very quickly as the anxiety produces an immediate somatic response, which tends to multiply the gloomy scenarios. When we are experiencing a fearful reaction we are unable to make rational decisions.
This activation will always override:
👉 balanced judgement,
👉 reason & logic
👉 clarity, ability to learn
👉 and all other functions of your prefrontal cortex.
Once your higher thinking is mostly out of the way your limbic system will focus on forcing you into safety. The primitive safety impulse will drag you kicking deep into the herd, deep into the familiar waters. You might find yourself:
👉 wanting to follow what the majority is doing, regardless of harm it might cause you
👉 be susceptible to what the perceived authority wants you to do
👉 be very susceptible to conditioning and mind programming
👉 stepping away from your humane values and morals just to keep yourself safe (a parson will normally justify their immoral behaviours using a child-like mentality)
👉 returning to addictions and self-destructive patterns if they were present in your childhood. You will desperately cling to familiarity.
If someone wanted to manipulate your perception or coerce into a choice, the sure way to go about it is to arouse your limbic brain. In the fear arousal your brain can be easily lead and is fixated on the narrow sliver of perceived reality.
We can’t change this deeply wired mechanism, but we can definitely counteract it.
HOW DO I EVEN BEGIN DISMANTLING MY FEAR
- First step is you have to make the decision to reclaim your self-ownership – this means you decide to take charge over your emotions and begin to discipline your mind. It also means that you’d need to disengage from any kind of victim/victimizer thinking. This is very important as it will shift your locus of control back to you.
- In order to acquire freedom from fears it is in our best interest to first observe and evaluate our internal processes, and influences the external forces bear upon us. To do so you just observe what is going on in your internal world without needing to change anything, without the judgement.
- Daily meditation will also help you firm up a point of stillness and neutrality from where to make those proper assessments. Many people are at the beginning of their deprogramming journey want to jump into modifying the behaviour, however, you need to understand that at the beginning you are dealing with reflexes, mechanical responses and most of the time it’s simply impossible. So, this stage of deprogramming the ego is about your development of the compassionate witness. If you can hold back on the self-judgement that is a major accomplishment. In no time you will be able to hold neutral observer awareness in a presence of a bully or a person who triggered you in the past. The key is to be aware of your activation and know that you can’t see clearly while your nervous system is switched to the survival mode. Get acquainted with the classic symptoms of the fight-or-flight response.
- Remove toxins and irritants from your body. This includes alcohol, coffee, any toxic substances as well as toxic products from your home. All this sets your body up for a fight or flight response.
So, when the mind has been mastered a bit more and awareness is expanded, you will have an option to refuse to get in the well known patterns. Another real bonus is you will be able to control the energy and with that your states of Consciousness. It is a persons directed and focused attention, which accesses the inner sensory ability to control the movement of life force or chi energy. When the mind is developed and disciplined, and thus calmed and centered, by focusing the mind, one can direct energy and life force very specifically. And when we are in fear our chi disburses and is not available to us.